Sarah went to college and studied Biology; she was very good at understanding everything there was about this subject and moved on to go to university for her degree. She had gained experience of study, research, speaking and demonstrating within her classes and sitting examinations.
Whenever she was with a number of people from her group, she joined in conversation and chatted confidently. Whenever she spent time with people who also showed similar interests as she did, Sarah felt confident enough to join in. However, strange though it may seem, at break times, when it came to making a decision about what to choose to eat from the menu or where to sit in the café, she crumbled. Her confidence seemed to slip away from her and she felt very embarrassed. Not that anyone was looking at her; but she felt very unsure of herself in those circumstances.
Another example is that of Robert who successfully ran his own business as a carpenter. He knew everything there was to know about wood and carpentry; he had lots of customers and his work could not be faulted. However, take him out the context which he knew – for instance a social event, and his confidence seemed to falter. Yet, we could say he had experiencing of socialising because he had to meet customers and they were strangers to start with – so where do things go wrong?
Sarah made lots of decisions within her studies – she decided which subject to study, which chair to sit on, who to sit next to, when to speak and when to do her studies at home. So, how come she couldn’t use the same strategies when she felt less confident?
Basically, both of them could, they were just not consciously aware of how to bring things together at an unconscious level. Sarah had an unpleasant childhood experience which lead to her lack of confidence – we worked with that at my Harley Street clinic and now she continues to listen to the self confidence hypnosis CD. She feels so much more confident with herself now in all areas of her life.
Robert started listening to our confidence self-hypnosis CD to develop new ways of behaving by using the visualization techniques. He has found the comfortable feeling he has when speaking with his customers and applies it to all social engagements.
